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The Cocktail Party Contrarian: After a Certain Point, It’s Just Whining

A particular kind of madness has taken root in contemporary American culture that celebrates victimization performance and unrestrained narcissistic emotionalism.

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People start thinking that every feeling they have matters such that they should share each one with anyone they can get to meet them for a drink. Via pexels.com
REBECCA SUGAR
REBECCA SUGAR

A few weeks ago, I met an old high school friend for a drink. We hadn’t really spent any time together since 1989. It was nostalgic and fun to talk to someone who knew me, and liked me, back when I had a perm and wore leg warmers.

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REBECCA SUGAR
REBECCA SUGAR

Ms. Sugar is a writer and philanthropic consultant living in New York. She is married and has twin teenagers and an English Bulldog named Batman.

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