I've been living in The Netherlands for nine years. It's been a very lonely road, and I have suffered from... [MORE]

lila

Sep 25, 2007 05:07

Having been "one of those kids" who was constantly rejected throughout life I have been both a loner and lonely.... [MORE]

Steve M

May 21, 2007 17:13

Thank you so much for writing this article. I am a loner myself, and cringe everytime a violent offender is... [MORE]

Jamie

Apr 24, 2007 14:29

Being lonely or a loner is simply insufficient to explain this. If either in itself was the reason there would... [MORE]

Steve

Apr 24, 2007 09:23

Thanks for a great article. Household census data shouldn't indicate a "person of interest". I hope we learn to reach... [MORE]

Ron

Apr 24, 2007 06:51

All this debate about semantics is cruel. I too am a loner feeling that I am labelled dangerous when I... [MORE]

Clare

Apr 24, 2007 05:30

As a professional that deal with workplace violence as a living I thought your article was interesting and provided a... [MORE]

Barry Nixon

Apr 23, 2007 22:37

I spent many years in the field of family violence (investigation, advocacy, prosecution, research, and prevention). Most cases of workplace... [MORE]

Diner

Apr 25, 2007 19:25

Barry, are you trying to say there is no truth unless you say so? [MORE]

Gordon Crump

Apr 26, 2007 09:43

Research is not only skewed by the creators, there is no such thing as conclusive research. Every case is individual... [MORE]

Jerry Hewes

Apr 27, 2007 22:23

I'd suggest the key is the difference between "solitude" (Yea!) and "isolation" (Nay!). SJS [MORE]

SJS

Apr 23, 2007 13:54

The ironic thing about all this discussion about Loners vs Loneliness, Sounds like Cho really was a loner, more than...

Josh

Apr 22, 2007 09:32

Now I wonder why in our religion it is strongly discouraged to live or stay alone even for a single... [MORE]

Mohammad

Apr 22, 2007 04:23

Why should anyone be left alone in the way we say our lives are in now a days. If you... [MORE]

James Ted Bradley

Apr 22, 2007 23:09

Excellent column! I'm a bit on the loner side myself. Thanks for explaining the vital distinction between the 2. [MORE]

Lisa

Apr 21, 2007 16:04

Excellent sometimes witty column making an important distinction between loners and the "lonely" who want to join clubs. This loner... [MORE]

mary

Apr 20, 2007 20:52

This is a good distinction if you want to really try and understand the underlying problem that leads somebody towards... [MORE]

Gary Meisner

Apr 20, 2007 19:11

What gives with the Travis Bickle comparisons everywhere I turn? Have any of these people even SEEN the movie? This... [MORE]

Audentes

Apr 20, 2007 16:52

Yes I too fit that profile, remarkably so. I have read the previous missives and one by one they said... [MORE]

Bill Campbell

Apr 20, 2007 10:22

Wonderful article. While I enjoy gadgets, more for the information they provide rather than the connection to other folks, I... [MORE]

Rich from RI

Apr 20, 2007 05:35

When are Americans going to realise that with those crazy gun laws this sort of thing is inevitable.*Sigh. [MORE]

Jon

Apr 20, 2007 18:55

You've got to be kidding me! To try to reduce this grave matter to a discussion of the semantics used... [MORE]

Tinashe Rondozai

Apr 20, 2007 03:01

I enjoy solitude. I am also the least likely person I can think of to do the nutty things that... [MORE]

Rich

Apr 19, 2007 21:32

Dear Lenore (I'll try not to quoth Poe- nevermore!) Anyhoo. Thank you-nice article. Harlan Ellison ran this number about thirty some... [MORE]

Patrick Northway

Apr 19, 2007 17:35

Yeah, he was lonely alright, because I think he was just pure evil and nasty! ugh! how about telling that... [MORE]

Linda

Apr 22, 2007 20:19

While I have no social problems or hangups whatsoever and I can be charming and enjoy a party or a... [MORE]

Daniel Brennan

Apr 19, 2007 14:31

loners are perfectly content to be alone, says the married woman? pardon me for stating the simplistically obvious, but honestly..... [MORE]

Vzur

Apr 19, 2007 08:38

My husband and I were loners. We spent most of our time at home, he painting in the basement, me... [MORE]

denise banker

Apr 18, 2007 14:12

I have been a loner all my life.I had friends while i was growing up but they never seem to... [MORE]

Cheryl

Jul 5, 2007 01:28

See, this is why Lenore Skenazy is my favorite columnist, and why I have followed her writing here to The... [MORE]

Melanie Scarpati

Apr 18, 2007 13:06

My first Leonore Skenazy column I've read and I must say I'm very favorably impressed! Well done, nicely done, great... [MORE]

A.M. Mora y Leon

Apr 19, 2007 01:28

Come on. Is it so hard to fathom that it is people who don't need people who kill 32 people... [MORE]

Chasli

Apr 18, 2007 10:53

Was the Lone Ranger lonely or a loner? He was definitely a loner because he had Tonto, his trusty sidekick,... [MORE]

Bob Mack

Apr 18, 2007 10:38

The real issue here is not semantics - it's a combination of mental illness, multiple warning signs that were ignored,... [MORE]

Diner

Apr 18, 2007 21:18

This issue is not being reduced to meaningless bantor. Once our media and society at large starts blathering on and... [MORE]

Jill Watson

Apr 21, 2007 08:05